The Becoming You Show with Leah Roling: 143. Your Most Important Relationship Shift Yet

If you’ve ever felt drained from giving and giving while someone else just takes and takes — this episode is your wake-up call.
We’re going deeper than the surface-level talk about “selfishness” and “entitlement” to uncover a truth most of us miss: the behaviors you can’t stand in others are often the very ones they can’t stand in themselves.

This isn’t about blame.
It’s about orbit.

You’ll learn why people stay in the center of a self-focused orbit, how we sometimes put them there without realizing it, and the powerful shift that happens when we stop seeing it as “what we’re tolerating” and start seeing it as “what they’re tolerating from themselves.”

We’ll walk through the O.R.B.I.T. framework — a simple, transformative tool that will change the way you lead, parent, love, and even treat yourself.

How to observe who’s in the center and how they got there.

Why remembering “you get what you tolerate” isn’t just for others — it’s for you too.

How to bring the conversation forward in service, not blame.

Ways to invite people into a bigger orbit without shame.

And how to take action that rebuilds connection, possibility, and growth.

This isn’t just an episode — it’s an invitation to stop silently pulling away or erupting in frustration, and start leading from compassion, clarity, and courage.

If you’ve been carrying resentment, feeling stuck in relationships, or wondering how to break the cycle of giving without getting, this will be the most important conversation you’ve heard yet.

Listen now — this might be the episode that changes your orbit forever.